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MAKING THE HONEYMOON LAST
This entry was posted on 3/28/2010 6:45 PM and is filed under uncategorized.
Next month my husband, "the educated cowboy," as he's known in his
family, and I will be celebrating our 36th wedding anniversary.
Sometimes friends or family members who've been divorced--occasionally
more than once--ask how it is that we've managed to stay married, and
happily so, all that time.
And one of the things I mention is that, at least for me, the man
continues to surprise me.
Not to brag or anything, but I've been known to have a certain mental
agility from time to time and a lesser man would bore me, frankly. And,
I'm a pretty tough old broad, to tell the truth, and a weaker man would
let me push him around, so I wouldn't have as much respect for him as I
do my husband. Not that I put up with any crap, mind you. The Mills
men are all--as I've mentioned before--combat vets (some are career
military)--and are masculine men; and every one of them is married to a
strong woman, and has been, for the duration.
I like to say that we never use the "D" word in our house. We have,
however, been known to use the "M" word from time to time. (In other
words, if Tammy Wynette had sung a song called M-U-R-D-E-R, I might've
bought it.)
It's with this in mind that I've been watching what's been taking place
with the health care reform bill, this president, our party, politics in
general, and of course, the ever brilliant and prescient political
punditry--you know, those people who all said Hillary would be
president.
And the ones who said that President Obama couldn't possibly concentrate
on more than one thing at a time once he WAS in the White House.
Which probably explains why he signed the health care reform bill on a
Tuesday afternoon, met with Prime Minister Netanyahu of Israel in the
White House Tuesday night, finalized a nuclear arms reduction bill with
President Medvedev of Russia on Thursday, and gave a speech to the
troops in Afghanistan on Sunday--all in one week.
One thing at a time.
And the ones who said, back in January, that health care reform was
dead, done for, over, end of story. Thirty, as they say in journalism.
Or used to, back when they HAD journalism.
Soooo, right NOW, the pundits are predicting that this horrible health
care reform bill that the whole country must apparently hate because
that's what the conservatives keep telling us, are going to vote out the
Democrats in massive numbers--maybe even turn over the House and Senate
to Republican control (!)--and man the first thing they're gonna DO is
repeal that horrible health care reform bill baby.
And the long and terrible nightmare of Barack Obama will be over because
the subtext--unspoken but clear--is that the NEXT two years will be
spent shutting down his presidency once and for all and insuring that he
is not re-elected (can anyone spell Jimmy Carter???) and/or finding
some way, some how that they can impeach him because that is what they
do when they can't be in power absolutely.
That's the plan, Stan. Get it? Got it? Good.
Only...not so fast.
Because there are more than a few little glitches in that outdated
roadmap.
For one thing, I hate to break it to these mostly white-haired
pundit-people, the same ones who were already going gray in the Clinton
years, but as much as they may believe it, this country is no longer
"center-right."
In fact, if anything, it's pretty much "center." And if you wanna know
the truth of it, yeah, it's pretty much starting to lean left. If
you've got any doubt about that, just follow the trajectory of the
gays-in-the-military debate from the 80's through the 90's until now,
and do it generationally.
Speaking of generations, let's take a look at the changing demographics
of this country, period. It's a pretty poorly-kept secret that the
reason the Tea Baggers are so predominantly white and over-50 is that
they fear the changing demographics of this country, as
Frank
Rich pointed out in today's New York Times:
The conjunction of a black president and a female speaker of the
House — topped off by a wise Latina on the Supreme Court and a
powerful gay Congressional committee chairman — would sow fears of
disenfranchisement among a dwindling and threatened minority in the
country no matter what policies were in play. It’s not happenstance that
Frank, Lewis and Cleaver — none of them major Democratic players in
the health care push — received a major share of last weekend’s abuse.
When you hear demonstrators chant the slogan “Take our country back!,”
these are the people they want to take the country back from.
They can’t. Demographics are avatars of a change bigger than any
bill contemplated by Obama or Congress. The week before the health care
vote, The Times
reported that births to Asian, black and Hispanic women accounted
for 48 percent of all births in America in the 12 months ending in July
2008. By 2012, the next presidential election year, non-Hispanic white
births will be in the minority. The Tea Party movement is virtually all
white. The Republicans haven’t had a single African-American in the
Senate or the House since 2003 and have had only three in total since
1935. Their anxieties about a rapidly changing America are
well-grounded.
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The point is that, as much media attention as this group has garnered,
the truth is that they don't really represent the majority of Americans,
as much as FOX news may want America to believe that they do. They
represent a small angry sliver of Americans that, frankly, is dying
out.
They don't represent America's future.
By shackling themselves to this movement, the Republican Party has, in
effect, shackled itself to the
past, more effectively than any
other way. Young people Googling or YouTubing or Jon Stewarting a brief
bit of news will not see anything in that bunch that will make them
want to join up and become activists.
By some accounts, as many as
42% of the American electorate right
now identifies themselves as Independents. This is because so many of
them have gotten disgruntled with the Republican party that they have
fled in droves, but they are not yet ready to register as Democrats.
This means they are up for grabs and could be folded back into the old
party.
But the GOP is not doing itself any favors. Take, for example, it's
brilliant strategy to block unemployment benefits as
Time
magazine puts it, not
just once, but TWICE:
In the wake of their health care defeat, Republicans in Washington
would
be wise to remember one famous definition of insanity as repeating the
same behavior again and again but expecting different results. After
all, there's hardly a politico in Washington, Republican or Democrat,
who thinks Senator Jim Bunning's one-man filibuster of unemployment
benefits last month reflected well on the GOP. So why are Senate
Republicans doing it again?
And if that weren't smart enough, what with all the projects that ground
to a halt the last time, such as highway construction and other major
state government employment projects forced to lay off workers while Jim
Bunning sunned himself in front of the kleig lights--this big idea of stopping
work at two p.m. every day is yet another stroke of genius,
because, ultimately, it had nothing to do with health care reform and
everything to do with making
them look like IDIOTS:
Burr used a parliamentary maneuver to derail an Armed Services
Committee hearing for which commanders had traveled from South Korea and
Hawaii to discuss the Pentagon's needs for the next year.
It was one of several hearings on issues ranging from homeless
veterans to police trainers in Afghanistan that were upturned by
Republican tactics to slow the workings of the Senate.
Meanwhile, the over-the-top incendiary rhetoric coming from sitting
congressmen (
"Armageddon," "clear and present danger," "deadly enemy
within"), and violence from Tea Partiers (hangman's nooses and
coffins sent to congressmen, death threats, bricks through
windows)--this is not the kind of behavior or talk that appeals to
centrist Independents.
It's scary. It's RIDICULOUS.
And they know it.
In fact, it appears that most Americans respond well to a calm,
intelligent demeanor, a sense of humor, and strength, which could
explain why the ONE person who has emerged the strongest, with the
biggest jump in poll numbers, is the very man who the GOP has portrayed
as a "clear and present danger" to this country, a socialist, a Marxist,
Hitler, a tyrannical ruler bent on totalitarian control of the
population...
It seems that the vast, overwhelming majority of the American people
AREN'T
LISTENING:
Several recent polls, conducted after the House vote Sunday night,
show that public support for Obama's efforts on reform have jumped, and
that he has re-endeared himself to his Democratic base.
A USA Today/Gallup poll
released yesterday showed that the public thought that Obama did the
best job when it came health care reform. Forty-six percent of
respondents to the poll said he did an "excellent or good job" on reform
over the past year. That was significantly higher than either the
Democrats in Congress (32% said they did an excellent/good job) or the
GOP on Capitol Hill (26%).
In other words, the GOP is listening only to THEIR OWN ECHO CHAMBER,
which is comprised of FOX news, Glenn Beck, Bill O'Reilly, Rush
Limbaugh, Sarah Palin, the Drudge Report and conservative news websites
and blogs. They have trained themselves to believe that any and all
mainstream news outlets are "liberal" and therefore NOT TO BE TRUSTED
and so, they only believe the canned news that is presented to them on
their own canned news networks--and of course, those viral e-mails.
Consequently, they believe their own canned news.
And they are flat-out stunned to find that the rest of the country just
ain't buying it. In fact, they keep going on all the news programs,
repeating over and over again, how much the country hates this
legislation, when, in reality, it really doesn't.
When you add the percentage of progressives who didn't like this health
care legislation because IT WASN'T LIBERAL ENOUGH, meaning, it wasn't
single-payer or it didn't offer the public option, with those who DID
like it, you came up with a majority who DID like the legislation, a
little fact overlooked by just about every news network out there, so
used to spouting the conservative line are they.
There are other little factoids coming to light.
Like...how the Republicans
were
for it before they were against it:
Republicans were for President
Barack Obama's requirement that Americans get health insurance
before they were against it.
The obligation in the new
health care law is a Republican idea
that's been around at least two decades. It was once trumpeted as an
alternative to Bill
and Hillary Clinton's failed health care
overhaul in the 1990s. These days, Republicans call it
government overreach.
All these things combined create an atmosphere that is very favorable
to Democrats. Put in simplistic terms, Americans like gutsy moves.
They like people who stand up for their principles. They like winners.
And, frankly, they like the individual components of this health care
reform package. As time passes, they will come to like it more and
more, and they will come to see, more and more, that the heated rhetoric
comes nowhere near to fitting the reality, at which time the
Republicans will look worse and worse, especially as they move closer
and closer to embracing their Tea Party lunatic fringe and further and
further away from the moderate (read: sane) center.
So, how do we make the Honeymoon of last week last?
First of all, the Bridegroom himself is key, as was pointed
out so beautifully in the British-run publication, the Financial
Times, in a piece by Edward Luce, "America:
The Recovery Position."
He pointed out that, to foreign governments, Obama already looks more
powerful, just by achieving this difficult victory here at home. In
fact, in other articles as well, it's been pointed out that Russian
president Medvedev thought for a while there that he could push Obama
around on the arms control treaty they were negotiating, and tested his
boundaries with the new American president--and found to his surprise
that that was not the case. It is perhaps no surprise to foreign
observers that the final deal was struck after Obama signed the health
care reform bill in the United States.
To his own party, as well, Obama seemed to reach his stride in this
battle, after seeming to drift for some months. Some thought he left
too much to congress and the senate, some thought he tried too hard for
bipartisanship. Some thought he needed the wake-up call of the Scott
Brown takeover of Senator Kennedy's seat in Massachusetts. Whatever the
catalyst, the man came out fighting, and cannot be faulted for either
his tireless efforts behind the scenes (Robert Gibbs says he personally
phoned 94 senators or congresspeople), or his crisscrossing stemwinding
speeches to the country, or his smackdown to Republicans on-camera and
in their faces.
But there's another way to look at this.
In another piece for Financial Times (subscription necessary,
but free), "Obama
Throws Out the Political Rules," by Clive Cook, he points out that
since the Republicans won the PR battle through fear, misinformation,
and hate-mongering (okay, I added that last part; he just said they won
the PR part), then the health care reform package was politically
unpopular at the time it was passed:
A year ago there were two scenarios for healthcare reform. One was
that the Democrats would carry a willing public with them and pass a
comprehensive bill. Another was that opinion would cool, forcing the
Democrats to settle for less. What happened was extraordinarily
unlikely: the public turned against the Democrats’ proposal and the
party went ahead and did it anyway.
In Europe, rule by a political
class that tells voters what is good for them is an idea so familiar
that it is quite taken for granted. In the United States it is novel,
and not instantly welcome.
Between now and November, Democrats
must persuade the country that they acted in its best interests when
they overrode the public’s doubts. If they succeed and retain their
majorities in Congress they will have a green light to advance their
wider aims, which include tax reform, labour relations, energy and
industrial policies. They will conclude that Clintonism, with its
submission to centrist opinion, was an error: they will have learned
that they can capture and move centrist opinion. But if voters punish
their arrogance, their momentum will be stopped. US policy will be set
on a very different course.
He goes on to say that the vile rhetoric of the Republicans is a
mistake, because centrist Independents don't like it, and that
furthermore, all this talk about repeal merely sounds like so much
whining unless they've got a solid health care reform package of their
own to replace it with--and we all know they don't.
However--and this would come second to the Bridegroom (call it
the work-part of marriage)--he says that Dems need to take care and not
get too carried away with the celebrations.
We've still got to implement this thing, and as Jonathan
Cohn points out, that is going to be the hard part.
If we can start getting the putting-into-place right, we WILL start
looking like geniuses.
And we have to not just "deliver the deliverables, as Cohn puts it,
but we have to EDUCATE THE PUBLIC that the deliverables are out there to
be delivered. Some benefits drop into place in three months, some in
six. Some right away. Some not for four years. As Democrats, we need
to educate ourselves to these basics and make sure our family and
friends--especially those opposed to this plan--know what they are.
They might find themselves less opposed than they thought.
For instance, I was able to send this article to everybody in my
family who has served or knows anyone who has, from Stars and Stripes,
(completely trusted source to conservatives) that reassures
active-duty military and veterans that their health care benefits
will not be affected by the health care reform bill.
My brother, a conservative Republican and evangelical Christian who
teaches at a private Christian school and who is a retired Chief Warrant
Officer from the army, wrote to thank me.
There are other reasons Democrats have to
be optimistic in 2010.
As Dylan Loewe writes, it's not just that the GOP is
self-destructing, it is that there are things working in our favor.
Even so, right now, there are some things over which nobody--not even
Barack Obama--has any control.
The economy. Jobs.
However, new job loss hemorrhaging seems to have stopped. It has not
yet turned around, but it has stopped. There are signs of recovery in
the economy but they are small and most people don't feel them yet in
their pocketbooks. People are still frightened and the Republicans
smell that blood in the water and love nothing better than to throw red
meat in and call the sharks to heighten the fear level to panic.
The ugly anger of the Tea Partiers is the flip-side of that panic,
since many of the Tea Partiers themselves
have been laid off and--irony of ironies--draw unemployment, social
security, or veteran's benefits while they go to the protests and
scream about government programs and demand lower taxes and FEWER
government programs; and that health insurance reform (designed to help
just those people who ARE laid off) be "killed"--is egged on and fueled
by the GOP rhetoric in hopes of drawing their money and votes.
But as Loewe points out in his piece, the unintended consequences of
this may be the "Ross Perot effect"--Tea Partiers drawing votes to the
rightest-right-winger and away from the regular Republican candidate,
thus throwing the election to the Democratic opponent.
In other words, the plan the Republican Party has to harness the Tea
Partiers may be like a cowboy trying to rope a rattlesnake.
Go ahead. Try it. They look mean--downright poisonous--and you think you can use them
against your enemy, right?
I'll sit over here, out of the way, and watch.
Now, speaking of cowboys.
Back when I first married mine, I was a city girl. I grew up in a major
metropolitan area. I had never been west of Fort Worth. In fact, come
to think of it, I'd never been to Fort Worth.
I'd never been ten feet from a cow.
And I married a man who was living on a ranch at the time where land was
measured by the SQUARE MILE. It was, in fact, a three mile drive to
the MAILBOX.
The nearest small town was 20 miles away, the nearest mall, 100 miles
away. My home city was 300 miles away and my mama a good 500.
It was a lot like moving to the moon, as far as I was concerned.
And I found out later that the pundits--if that's what you'd like to
call the "wedding guests"--had taken bets at the wedding that I wouldn't
last six months before I went crying back home to my mama. Or, at
least, back to a mall.
Looks like they were wrong, too.
What amazes me about the punditry when it comes to Barack Obama is how,
first of all, they are so unapologetic. Wrong time and time again, they
keep prognosticating and they keep being wrong and they don't even bat
an eyelash about it. They just keep on spouting off like they've got a
right!
What do you have to do to get fired in that town???
Now they're all predicting a bloodbath for the Democrats in November and
a lame-duck Obama for the last two years of his Carteresque presidency.
They say that even as he has had the single most successful first year
of just about any president in our history, or at least, in the past 70
years, especially when you consider the fact that he has had NO
cooperation from half of his congress or senate.
So...go ahead on, you dumbasses. Keep on predicting his doom and our
gloom. It only emboldens the Republicans and gives them reason to crow
while they're marching naked down the street and you are ooohing and
aaahhing at their finery.
Meanwhile, we Democrats and our president are busy over here,
governing, making our "marriage" work. Sometimes he surprises us too, but in a good way. Mostly we're working for the same thing, to make this country better for everybody, not just the top 2%.
Most of the American people have figured that out. Someday
it will dawn on you guys, too.
But then, I can't really blame you. Most of you probably don't even know
what a good marriage really looks like, anyway.
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