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MAKING THE HONEYMOON LAST

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This entry was posted on 3/28/2010 6:45 PM and is filed under uncategorized.

Next month my husband, "the educated cowboy," as he's known in his family, and I will be celebrating our 36th wedding anniversary.  Sometimes friends or family members who've been divorced--occasionally more than once--ask how it is that we've managed to stay married, and happily so, all that time. 

And one of the things I mention is that, at least for me, the man continues to surprise me.


Not to brag or anything, but I've been known to have a certain mental agility from time to time and a lesser man would bore me, frankly.  And, I'm a pretty tough old broad, to tell the truth, and a weaker man would let me push him around, so I wouldn't have as much respect for him as I do my husband.  Not that I put up with any crap, mind you.  The Mills men are all--as I've mentioned before--combat vets (some are career military)--and are masculine men; and every one of them is married to a strong woman, and has been, for the duration.


I like to say that we never use the "D" word in our house.  We have, however, been known to use the "M" word from time to time.  (In other words, if Tammy Wynette had sung a song called M-U-R-D-E-R, I might've bought it.)


It's with this in mind that I've been watching what's been taking place with the health care reform bill, this president, our party, politics in general, and of course, the ever brilliant and prescient political punditry--you know, those people who all said Hillary would be president. 


And the ones who said that President Obama couldn't possibly concentrate on more than one thing at a time once he WAS in the White House. 


Which probably explains why he signed the health care reform bill on a Tuesday afternoon, met with Prime Minister Netanyahu of Israel in the White House Tuesday night, finalized a nuclear arms reduction bill with President Medvedev of Russia on Thursday, and gave a speech to the troops in Afghanistan on Sunday--all in one week.


One thing at a time.


And the ones who said, back in January, that health care reform was dead, done for, over, end of story.  Thirty, as they say in journalism.  Or used to, back when they HAD journalism.


Soooo, right NOW, the pundits are predicting that this horrible health care reform bill that the whole country must apparently hate because that's what the conservatives keep telling us, are going to vote out the Democrats in massive numbers--maybe even turn over the House and Senate to Republican control (!)--and man the first thing they're gonna DO is repeal that horrible health care reform bill baby.


And the long and terrible nightmare of Barack Obama will be over because the subtext--unspoken but clear--is that the NEXT two years will be spent shutting down his presidency once and for all and insuring that he is not re-elected (can anyone spell Jimmy Carter???) and/or finding some way, some how that they can impeach him because that is what they do when they can't be in power absolutely.


That's the plan, Stan.  Get it?  Got it?  Good.


Only...not so fast.


Because there are more than a few little glitches in that outdated roadmap.


For one thing, I hate to break it to these mostly white-haired pundit-people, the same ones who were already going gray in the Clinton years, but as much as they may believe it, this country is no longer "center-right."


In fact, if anything, it's pretty much "center."  And if you wanna know the truth of it, yeah, it's pretty much starting to lean left.  If you've got any doubt about that, just follow the trajectory of the gays-in-the-military debate from the 80's through the 90's until now, and do it generationally.


Speaking of generations, let's take a look at the changing demographics of this country, period.  It's a pretty poorly-kept secret that the reason the Tea Baggers are so predominantly white and over-50 is that they fear the changing demographics of this country, as
Frank Rich pointed out in today's New York Times:

The conjunction of a black president and a female speaker of the House — topped off by a wise Latina on the Supreme Court and a powerful gay Congressional committee chairman — would sow fears of disenfranchisement among a dwindling and threatened minority in the country no matter what policies were in play. It’s not happenstance that Frank, Lewis and Cleaver — none of them major Democratic players in the health care push — received a major share of last weekend’s abuse. When you hear demonstrators chant the slogan “Take our country back!,” these are the people they want to take the country back from.

They can’t. Demographics are avatars of a change bigger than any bill contemplated by Obama or Congress. The week before the health care vote, The Times reported that births to Asian, black and Hispanic women accounted for 48 percent of all births in America in the 12 months ending in July 2008. By 2012, the next presidential election year, non-Hispanic white births will be in the minority. The Tea Party movement is virtually all white. The Republicans haven’t had a single African-American in the Senate or the House since 2003 and have had only three in total since 1935. Their anxieties about a rapidly changing America are well-grounded.

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The point is that, as much media attention as this group has garnered, the truth is that they don't really represent the majority of Americans, as much as FOX news may want America to believe that they do.  They represent a small angry sliver of Americans that, frankly, is dying out. 

They don't represent America's future.


By shackling themselves to this movement, the Republican Party has, in effect, shackled itself to the
past, more effectively than any other way.  Young people Googling or YouTubing or Jon Stewarting a brief bit of news will not see anything in that bunch that will make them want to join up and become activists.

By some accounts, as many as
42% of the American electorate right now identifies themselves as Independents.  This is because so many of them have gotten disgruntled with the Republican party that they have fled in droves, but they are not yet ready to register as Democrats.  This means they are up for grabs and could be folded back into the old party.

But the GOP is not doing itself any favors.  Take, for example, it's brilliant strategy to block unemployment benefits as
Time magazine puts it, not just once, but TWICE:

In the wake of their health care defeat, Republicans in Washington would be wise to remember one famous definition of insanity as repeating the same behavior again and again but expecting different results. After all, there's hardly a politico in Washington, Republican or Democrat, who thinks Senator Jim Bunning's one-man filibuster of unemployment benefits last month reflected well on the GOP. So why are Senate Republicans doing it again?
And if that weren't smart enough, what with all the projects that ground to a halt the last time, such as highway construction and other major state government employment projects forced to lay off workers while Jim Bunning sunned himself in front of the kleig lights--this big idea of stopping work at two p.m. every day is yet another stroke of genius, because, ultimately, it had nothing to do with health care reform and everything to do with making them look like IDIOTS:

Burr used a parliamentary maneuver to derail an Armed Services Committee hearing for which commanders had traveled from South Korea and Hawaii to discuss the Pentagon's needs for the next year.


It was one of several hearings on issues ranging from homeless veterans to police trainers in Afghanistan that were upturned by Republican tactics to slow the workings of the Senate.



Meanwhile, the over-the-top incendiary rhetoric coming from sitting congressmen (
"Armageddon," "clear and present danger," "deadly enemy within"), and violence from Tea Partiers (hangman's nooses and coffins sent to congressmen, death threats, bricks through windows)--this is not the kind of behavior or talk that appeals to centrist Independents.

It's scary.  It's RIDICULOUS.


And they know it. 


In fact, it appears that most Americans respond well to a calm, intelligent demeanor, a sense of humor, and strength, which could explain why the ONE person who has emerged the strongest, with the biggest jump in poll numbers, is the very man who the GOP has portrayed as a "clear and present danger" to this country, a socialist, a Marxist, Hitler, a tyrannical ruler bent on totalitarian control of the population...


It seems that the vast, overwhelming majority of the American people
AREN'T LISTENING:

Several recent polls, conducted after the House vote Sunday night, show that public support for Obama's efforts on reform have jumped, and that he has re-endeared himself to his Democratic base.

A USA Today/Gallup poll released yesterday showed that the public thought that Obama did the best job when it came health care reform. Forty-six percent of respondents to the poll said he did an "excellent or good job" on reform over the past year. That was significantly higher than either the Democrats in Congress (32% said they did an excellent/good job) or the GOP on Capitol Hill (26%).


In other words, the GOP is listening only to THEIR OWN ECHO CHAMBER, which is comprised of FOX news, Glenn Beck, Bill O'Reilly, Rush Limbaugh, Sarah Palin, the Drudge Report and conservative news websites and blogs.  They have trained themselves to believe that any and all mainstream news outlets are "liberal" and therefore NOT TO BE TRUSTED and so, they only believe the canned news that is presented to them on their own canned news networks--and of course, those viral e-mails.

Consequently, they believe their own canned news.


And they are flat-out stunned to find that the rest of the country just ain't buying it.  In fact, they keep going on all the news programs, repeating over and over again, how much the country hates this legislation, when, in reality, it really doesn't.


When you add the percentage of progressives who didn't like this health care legislation because IT WASN'T LIBERAL ENOUGH, meaning, it wasn't single-payer or it didn't offer the public option, with those who DID like it, you came up with a majority who DID like the legislation, a little fact overlooked by just about every news network out there, so used to spouting the conservative line are they.


There are other little factoids coming to light.


Like...how the Republicans
were for it before they were against it:

Republicans were for President Barack Obama's requirement that Americans get health insurance before they were against it.


The obligation in the new health care law is a Republican idea that's been around at least two decades. It was once trumpeted as an alternative to Bill and Hillary Clinton's failed health care overhaul in the 1990s. These days, Republicans call it government overreach.


All these things combined create an atmosphere that is very favorable to Democrats.  Put in simplistic terms, Americans like gutsy moves.  They like people who stand up for their principles.  They like winners.

And, frankly, they like the individual components of this health care reform package.  As time passes, they will come to like it more and more, and they will come to see, more and more, that the heated rhetoric comes nowhere near to fitting the reality, at which time the Republicans will look worse and worse, especially as they move closer and closer to embracing their Tea Party lunatic fringe and further and further away from the moderate (read: sane) center.

So, how do we make the Honeymoon of last week last?

First of all, the Bridegroom himself is key, as was pointed out so beautifully in the British-run publication, the Financial Times, in a piece by Edward Luce, "America: The Recovery Position."

He pointed out that, to foreign governments, Obama already looks more powerful, just by achieving this difficult victory here at home.  In fact, in other articles as well, it's been pointed out that Russian president Medvedev thought for a while there that he could push Obama around on the arms control treaty they were negotiating, and tested his boundaries with the new American president--and found to his surprise that that was not the case.  It is perhaps no surprise to foreign observers that the final deal was struck after Obama signed the health care reform bill in the United States.

To his own party, as well, Obama seemed to reach his stride in this battle, after seeming to drift for some months.  Some thought he left too much to congress and the senate, some thought he tried too hard for bipartisanship.  Some thought he needed the wake-up call of the Scott Brown takeover of Senator Kennedy's seat in Massachusetts.  Whatever the catalyst, the man came out fighting, and cannot be faulted for either his tireless efforts behind the scenes (Robert Gibbs says he personally phoned 94 senators or congresspeople), or his crisscrossing stemwinding speeches to the country, or his smackdown to Republicans on-camera and in their faces.

But there's another way to look at this.

In another piece for Financial Times (subscription necessary, but free), "Obama Throws Out the Political Rules," by Clive Cook, he points out that since the Republicans won the PR battle through fear, misinformation, and hate-mongering (okay, I added that last part; he just said they won the PR part), then the health care reform package was politically unpopular at the time it was passed:

A year ago there were two scenarios for healthcare reform. One was that the Democrats would carry a willing public with them and pass a comprehensive bill. Another was that opinion would cool, forcing the Democrats to settle for less. What happened was extraordinarily unlikely: the public turned against the Democrats’ proposal and the party went ahead and did it anyway.

In Europe, rule by a political class that tells voters what is good for them is an idea so familiar that it is quite taken for granted. In the United States it is novel, and not instantly welcome.

Between now and November, Democrats must persuade the country that they acted in its best interests when they overrode the public’s doubts. If they succeed and retain their majorities in Congress they will have a green light to advance their wider aims, which include tax reform, labour relations, energy and industrial policies. They will conclude that Clintonism, with its submission to centrist opinion, was an error: they will have learned that they can capture and move centrist opinion. But if voters punish their arrogance, their momentum will be stopped. US policy will be set on a very different course.

He goes on to say that the vile rhetoric of the Republicans is a mistake, because centrist Independents don't like it, and that furthermore, all this talk about repeal merely sounds like so much whining unless they've got a solid health care reform package of their own to replace it with--and we all know they don't.

However--and this would come second to the Bridegroom (call it the work-part of marriage)--he says that Dems need to take care and not get too carried away with the celebrations. 

We've still got to implement this thing, and as Jonathan Cohn points out, that is going to be the hard part.

If we can start getting the putting-into-place right, we WILL start looking like geniuses.

And we have to not just "deliver the deliverables, as Cohn puts it, but we have to EDUCATE THE PUBLIC that the deliverables are out there to be delivered.  Some benefits drop into place in three months, some in six.  Some right away.  Some not for four years.  As Democrats, we need to educate ourselves to these basics and make sure our family and friends--especially those opposed to this plan--know what they are.

They might find themselves less opposed than they thought.

For instance, I was able to send this article to everybody in my family who has served or knows anyone who has, from Stars and Stripes, (completely trusted source to conservatives) that reassures active-duty military and veterans that their health care benefits will not be affected by the health care reform bill.

My brother, a conservative Republican and evangelical Christian who teaches at a private Christian school and who is a retired Chief Warrant Officer from the army, wrote to thank me.

There are other reasons Democrats have to be optimistic in 2010.

As Dylan Loewe writes, it's not just that the GOP is self-destructing, it is that there are things working in our favor. 

Even so, right now, there are some things over which nobody--not even Barack Obama--has any control.

The economy.  Jobs.

However, new job loss hemorrhaging seems to have stopped.  It has not yet turned around, but it has stopped.  There are signs of recovery in the economy but they are small and most people don't feel them yet in their pocketbooks.  People are still frightened and the Republicans smell that blood in the water and love nothing better than to throw red meat in and call the sharks to heighten the fear level to panic.

The ugly anger of the Tea Partiers is the flip-side of that panic, since many of the Tea Partiers themselves have been laid off and--irony of ironies--draw unemployment, social security, or veteran's benefits while they go to the protests and scream about government programs and demand lower taxes and FEWER government programs; and that health insurance reform (designed to help just those people who ARE laid off) be "killed"--is egged on and fueled by the GOP rhetoric in hopes of drawing their money and votes.

But as Loewe points out in his piece, the unintended consequences of this may be the "Ross Perot effect"--Tea Partiers drawing votes to the rightest-right-winger and away from the regular Republican candidate, thus throwing the election to the Democratic opponent.

In other words, the plan the Republican Party has to harness the Tea Partiers may be like a cowboy trying to rope a rattlesnake.

Go ahead.  Try it.  They look mean--downright poisonous--and you think you can use them against your enemy, right?


I'll sit over here, out of the way, and watch.


Now, speaking of cowboys.


Back when I first married mine, I was a city girl.  I grew up in a major metropolitan area.  I had never been west of Fort Worth.  In fact, come to think of it, I'd never been to Fort Worth.


I'd never been ten feet from a cow.


And I married a man who was living on a ranch at the time where land was measured by the SQUARE MILE.  It was, in fact, a three mile drive to the MAILBOX.


The nearest small town was 20 miles away, the nearest mall, 100 miles away.  My home city was 300 miles away and my mama a good 500.


It was a lot like moving to the moon, as far as I was concerned.


And I found out later that the pundits--if that's what you'd like to call the "wedding guests"--had taken bets at the wedding that I wouldn't last six months before I went crying back home to my mama.  Or, at least, back to a mall.


Looks like they were wrong, too.


What amazes me about the punditry when it comes to Barack Obama is how, first of all, they are so unapologetic.  Wrong time and time again, they keep prognosticating and they keep being wrong and they don't even bat an eyelash about it.  They just keep on spouting off like they've got a right!


What do you have to do to get fired in that town???


Now they're all predicting a bloodbath for the Democrats in November and a lame-duck Obama for the last two years of his Carteresque presidency.


They say that even as he has had the single most successful first year of just about any president in our history, or at least, in the past 70 years, especially when you consider the fact that he has had NO cooperation from half of his congress or senate.


So...go ahead on, you dumbasses.  Keep on predicting his doom and our gloom.  It only emboldens the Republicans and gives them reason to crow while they're marching naked down the street and you are ooohing and aaahhing at their finery.


Meanwhile, we Democrats and our president are busy over here, governing, making our "marriage" work.  Sometimes he surprises us too, but in a good way.  Mostly we're working for the same thing, to make this country better for everybody, not just the top 2%.

Most of the American people have figured that out.  Someday it will dawn on you guys, too.


But then, I can't really blame you.  Most of you probably don't even know what a good marriage really looks like, anyway.




 

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    • 3/28/2010 10:28 PM Morgan Pardee wrote:
      Great post, Deanie! Almost makes me wish I were married again ... almost.
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      1. 3/29/2010 9:21 AM Deanie Mills wrote:
        Oh, my old friend, you make me laugh!! Sooo good to see you here!

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    • 3/29/2010 11:48 AM Nigel wrote:
      >>>Next month my husband, "the educated cowboy," as he's known in his family, and I will be celebrating our 36th wedding anniversary.<<<

      It will be thirty eight years for Eileen and me in May. And, I'll get a free bus pass, free drugs & eye tests as I'll be sixty.

      >>>British-run publication, the Financial Times<<<

      Isn't it about time you colonials started believing in the Queen again? The Aussies have got it right as they voted to keep her as head of state because she can't do them any harm.

      As you are aware, I think that Genghis Khan was a pinko, commie, lefty pooftah, but, sometimes people need some help from The State. Our National Health Service is far from perfect but everybody gets "free" (paid for from taxes) care at point of use which takes a lot of worry from millions of people's minds. When I was working, our Police were the best in the world and when I was in the Army, that was best too, even though we suffered from CKS like today's forces. Sorry, CKS = Crap Kit Syndrome. BTW, Thomas Crapper did not invent the crapper, he just made shed loads of money from improving designs, making and selling them.
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      1. 3/29/2010 12:12 PM Deanie Mills wrote:
        Shoot, Nigel, if it wasn't for the UK Guardian I'd never get any balanced coverage of American politics. <g>

        Well, we liberals tried our best to get universal health coverage but oh my GOD we couldn't even get that our of committee.  So then we tried to at least get a public option--a government-run insurance policy that would provide fair competition to the Blue Crosses of the world but HELL NO oh my GOD that's COMMUNISM SOCIALISM MARXISM FASCISM dontcha know why why...why...it's...

        It's EUROPEAN!!!!!

        And we couldn't have THAT could we?  Of course not.

        So we wound up with such a modest reform, really.  You gotta buy insurance, which enriches the pots of the insurance companies, but you get govt subsidies if you can't afford it, and there will be exchanges that make it more affordable anyway, more competition, so that one state, like Texas, can't be ruled by one gigantic mighty Blue Cross firm.  And they have to take you even if you're sick, have to keep you no matter how sick you get, and have to cover your preventative care for free.  There will be health clinics set up to take care of things, and prescription medications will be covered with more modest co-pays for seniors, that kind of thing.

        It's really sooo modest compared to the European model but Jesus Christ you should hear the HOWLING that is still going on over here.  You would think Obama was Hitler himself.  It's actually frightening to me, to be honest and quite serious.  I hope he stays safe, the Secret Service can only do so much.

        The queen is rather harmless though, isn't she?  It's her buggared-up family that's the problem. <g>

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    • 3/29/2010 7:41 PM Regina wrote:
      My girl Deanie, you do have a way with words! Keep the wisdom coming. BTW Nigel, it will be 33 years for Edward and me in May and I will also be turning 60. Who knew?
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      1. 3/30/2010 8:58 AM Deanie Mills wrote:
        Thank you my friend.  I dunno about you but I just have no idea where all the years went. 

        I was just thinking the other day about tumbleweeds. 

        When we first moved out to this rattletrap old house, the surrounding fields had not been cultivated, and the place had been owned in the past by a farmer.  Now, in time, Kent put it into pasture grasses and ran cattle on it, but at the time so many years ago, it had been plowed under for cotton, but had not been cultivated since the place had been put up for sale and was sitting idle, so that old red dirt just blew in the west Texas wind--oh, it was awful.  Sand on the window sills of this old house an inch deep.

        This house sets up on a windy hill, and back then, before the grasses had grown to secure the soil, we had tumbleweeds.  Big ole tumbleweeds some of them four feet across.

        So one day I was sitting on the front porch and my little boy, who was about three, came running screaming around from behind the house in his little cowboy boots and one of his daddy's big ole cowboy hats, and here came this tumbleweed blowing along behind him--it must have looked like a monster chasing that child!  I laughed so hard!  Rescued him of course but had to laugh.

        Now the tumbleweeds are gone thank goodness, and that baby is a grown up former Marine who's fought in a war and talking about getting married.  (Still just TALKING, mind you!)  And I look at him and I just wonder where on earth the years went.  How it is he got to be 32 years old--which was about the age his daddy was when we bought this place.  I look at him and I just can't believe it.

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      2. 3/30/2010 10:23 AM Nigel wrote:
        >>>I will also be turning 60.<<<
        SWMBO will be sixty six in November. SHE gets a fuel allowance in the winter but she'll have to share it with me from this year.
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    • 3/30/2010 10:20 AM Nigel wrote:
      >>>if it wasn't for the UK Guardian I'd never get any balanced coverage of American politics. <<<
      The Guardian IS biased. Try The Times or The Independent instead. The Telegraph is a Conservative paper, the Guardian Labour, the Daily Mail is conservative and the Daily Mirror Labour. The Sun doesn't care who runs the country as long as they've got big tits.

      >>>It's her buggared-up family that's the problem.<<<

      The word is buggered and that comes from attending public (actually private) schools.
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      1. 3/30/2010 11:39 AM Deanie Mills wrote:
        LOL.  Thanks, Nigel, for the, ahem, education!  But let me put it this way, compared to what's in the States, the Guardian IS balanced.

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    • 4/3/2010 8:24 AM Kathleen wrote:
      Deanie, in the marriage part, you left off the MOST important. both people have to want to make it work and have to compromise or hold their nose on occasion. hmmm, same goes for governing a country by party procedure. congrats to you and have a very nice anniversary!
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